A Fork in the Road
We received an email from our social worker at our agency. She recently returned from a trip to India and visited with the orphanage director. Our US agency works with one orphanage called Matri Sneha in Kolkata (Calcutta). We chose this agency because an acquaintance had gone through them in order to bring their daughter home. We have had a good experience in terms of their professionalism. However, I would advise anyone interested in adopting from India to go with an agency with a more diversified program. Agencies such as Holt and AIAA work with multiple sites in India.
The orphanage in Calcutta now has an inordinate number of babies with significant special needs. They have a staff with multiple physical therapists and doctors. They cannot afford to take in any more babies and meet the needs of their current special needs babies and toddlers.
The irony in this is that we are open to correctable special needs or those that we can accommodate. However, the medicals on the new waiting children show significant cognitive issues such as brain abnormalities resulting in probable mental retardation, etc. None of these issues are ones with which we are equipped to deal at this time. So we are left to wonder, what is next God? Was this all one big test of faith? I do not know at this point.
Since our agency works with one orphanage which needs to find homes for at least seven children with significant medical issues such as autism, CP, severe seizure disorders and brain damage before it can take in any more babies AND our agency also has to go through a routine license renewal which can stop everything for up to six months, we are puzzled.
Parallel to all of this is our agency's new Vietnam program. This program has virtually no wait for referral and then 3-6 months to travel.
All of the feedback I have read from adult adoptees said that we should have a real interest in and embrace our child's birth culture. I do not have any problem with Vietnam or Vietnamese culture only the minor detail of knowing absolutely no one who is Vietnamese or anything about Vietnam except for a terrible war. So what now?
Our plan is to continue to prepare our dossier and pray. If you are reading this, please pray that we find clarity as to God's will and have the wisdom to follow it.
The orphanage in Calcutta now has an inordinate number of babies with significant special needs. They have a staff with multiple physical therapists and doctors. They cannot afford to take in any more babies and meet the needs of their current special needs babies and toddlers.
The irony in this is that we are open to correctable special needs or those that we can accommodate. However, the medicals on the new waiting children show significant cognitive issues such as brain abnormalities resulting in probable mental retardation, etc. None of these issues are ones with which we are equipped to deal at this time. So we are left to wonder, what is next God? Was this all one big test of faith? I do not know at this point.
Since our agency works with one orphanage which needs to find homes for at least seven children with significant medical issues such as autism, CP, severe seizure disorders and brain damage before it can take in any more babies AND our agency also has to go through a routine license renewal which can stop everything for up to six months, we are puzzled.
Parallel to all of this is our agency's new Vietnam program. This program has virtually no wait for referral and then 3-6 months to travel.
All of the feedback I have read from adult adoptees said that we should have a real interest in and embrace our child's birth culture. I do not have any problem with Vietnam or Vietnamese culture only the minor detail of knowing absolutely no one who is Vietnamese or anything about Vietnam except for a terrible war. So what now?
Our plan is to continue to prepare our dossier and pray. If you are reading this, please pray that we find clarity as to God's will and have the wisdom to follow it.
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